Are You Attracted to Men That Are Fixer Uppers Pt2?

What is the difference between being a loving, supportive woman and  doing way to much for your partner?  It is a fine line that, once crossed, lead us into fixer-upper land. It determines whether you will have a healthy, happy relationship or heartbreak.    On this weeks episode of the SoulMate Coach Crystal Show we will be discussing what to do if you are attracted to fixer-uppers.  The problem is, sometimes we don't see the part we play in attracting certain men into our lives.   In this video I will discuss how to determine if you are unknowingly  attracting men that are Fixer-Uppers into your life. Blessings........Crystal

Are You Attracted to Men That Are Fixer-Uppers?

Are you attracted always to that guy that needs JUST needs a little (which always turns out to be a lot of) love, support and WORK to reach his full potential? You know, the guy who almost has it together but can never quite get it together? That one with sooo much potential that he never seems to live up to.

Or perhaps, he’s the one that you’ve supported through thick and thin only to have him disappear after he reaches his goal? If you’ve  ever co-signed for a car, pulled all nighters, supported him in his business start up or through school only to have him never reach his potential or walk away once he does, this episode is for you!

I will share with you how and why this happens and how to keep it from happening to you again! This is going to be powerful stuff! You don't want to miss this life and relationship changing episode!

When: Monday, September 19, 2011

Time: 7:00-7:30PM EST

Where: www.blogtalkradio.com/SoulMate-Coach-Crystal or call in to listen live or comment by dialing 760-512-7255.

This show is quickly becoming the go-to show for real relationship advice and insight! I cram more info into 30 minutes than the law should allow!! So, come on out and get you relationship "Aha" moment!

Some of you are happily single or married and this is NOT for you and I am happy for you, that is a beautiful thing. However, there are people that you probably know WHO are hurting and want to experience the same happiness and peace that you have found. So pay it forward and PLEASE PASS THIS INFORMATION ALONG TO THEM. Together we can break the cycle of painful relationships and unlock the door to the relationship of your dreams. See you on the radio!

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: On Monday, September, 26th, there will be no live broadcast of the SoulMate Crystal Show. The regular show will resume on Monday, October, 3rd.

Blessings,

Crystal

And When I Wake Up, Everything I Went Through Will Be Beautiful.....

As you guys know I am a huge music fan.  Last week I bought Jill Scott’s new CD, In Light of The Sun, and all I can say is that I am in LOVE!!!  Now, I am a huge Jill Scott fan anyway, so this is not totally shocking but one of her songs REALLY struck a nerve with me this past week.  

The song, When I Wake Up, is absolutely gorgeous.  It talks about love, loss and recovery.  She talks about living in that place where you know you need to move on and that something better is coming but you just can’t let go.  She sings, beautifully I might add,  “When I wake up, everything I went through will be beautiful. And when I wake up, and I will wake up, it will be beautiful.”  

I guess these words are so profound because I know them to be true.  Having experienced my own personal tragedy (my first husband passing) and with the 10th anniversary of 9/11, this past Sunday, this song seemed to reach out and grab me.  The enormity of loss, remembering those who were lost and moving forward seemed to be the theme of the weekend.  

Loss can be a gut wrenching part of life and moving forward after loss can feel impossible.  However, loss is something that I found, I had to walk through to find healing.  There was no way around it (no matter how much I wished there was).  And anyone who has ever suffered a tremendous loss knows that loss doesn't process it’s self, nor will the pain go away on it’s own, it’s something we have to learn to move through.  But take heart because there is a gift......

That gift is that, as Jill sang, when we wake up, everything we went through will be beautiful.  And 5 years out from my own tragedy, I know these words to be true.  Because I feel like I am waking up and when I look around my life, everything is beautiful.  Now, don’t get me wrong, these past 5 years were filled with a whole lot of tears, struggles, some laughter and some even some joy.  I had to rebuild much of my life and in some ways totally redefine myself.  

I learned that I was stronger that I could have ever imagined.  I have discovered parts of me that I would have never found otherwise.  I have found that I love yoga and have started running, who knew? And to my surprise, I have found a deep and fulfilling love.  The kind of love I believed you only get once in your life, I have found again. 

 Of course its different but just as deep and satisfying. In some ways it’s actually deeper, because I am deeper. Working through loss has a way of adding depth to your life that you couldn't otherwise imagine. I can still hear my coach saying to me, in one of my darkest hours, “Crystal, the degree to which you are willing to grieve, will be the degree to which you will be able to love, once the pain goes away”.  And boy, was she right.

I discovered that moving forward and having a wonderful life has nothing to do with how much I loved my late husband or my life before his passing.  It has everything to do with being grateful for the life I had and then letting go of that life, because that life ended.  Learning to love my life, as it is, is how I honor my past and my present. There are rough patches here and there and I still have a good ‘cry session’ when I need to but I can honestly say humbly and with gratitude: “Everything I went through is BEAUTIFUL”.

ERYKAH BADU LIVE - BAG LADY

In honor of today's show! Listen to these lyrics. So profound and TRUE!!! Blessings......Crystal

Are You An Emotional Bag Lady?

 ARE YOU AN EMOTIONAL BAG LADY?

Bag lady you gone hurt your back
Dragging all them bags like that
I guess nobody ever told you
All you must hold on to
Is you, is you, is you ~Bag Lady By Erykah Badu

Remember this song? Carrying around emotional bagging is both draining frustrating.  It sucks all of the jou and happiness out of you life and relationships.  And as Eryhah say's in the afore mentioned song, its time to: let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go!  

Are you tired of dragging around emotional baggage?  Do you find yourself feeling stuck in a cycle of painful and dead end relationships? Do you know 'what' you need to change but you don't know 'how' or where to start? Then take heart, this show is for you. 

Past hurts, disappointments and painful relationships don't have to plague you forever. You can put down your emotional baggage for once and for all and I want to show you how. So make sure to join me this Monday on the SoulMate Coach Crystal show! Its time to FREE yourself of your emotional baggage and have the life and relationship that you truly desire.   So join me for this lively and interesting conversation!

               

When: Monday, September 5, 2011

Time: 7:00-7:30PM EST

Where: The SoulMate Coach Crystal Show or call in to listen live or comment by dialing 760-512-7255

This show is quickly becoming the go-to show for real relationship advice and insight! Come on out and get you relationship "Aha" moment!

Some of you are happily single or married and this is NOT for you and I am happy for you, that is a beautiful thing. However, there are people that you probably know WHO are hurting and want to experience the same happiness and peace that you have found. So pay it forward and PLEASE PASS THIS INFORMATION ALONG TO THEM. Together we can break the cycle of painful relationships and unlock the door to the relationship of your dreams. See you on the radio!

Blessings,

Crystal 

Do You Need To Lower Your Standards to Find Love?

Are your standards too high? Are your standards blocking you when it comes to love? Do you need to lower your standards to find love? This video addresses these questions.