Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Things Than Make My Marriage a Happier Place Pt1



These are a few things that I have found make my marriage a happier place. Now, this is a combination of what I've learned from my marriage to my late husband(16 years together), my current husband, books workshops, seminars, counseling and coaching. So all in all, I've been plugging away at this "happy relationship" thing for over 20 years of my life. This is an overview of some of the main things that make my marriage a happy place to be. I hope you enjoy and find it helpful. BTW there is a Part 2 posted on my YouTube channel. I will be posting it here next week but if you want a sneak peak go over and check it out www.youtube.com/SoulMateCoachCrystal.

Thanks for stopping by. If your marriage is not such a "happy place" these days feel free to contact me for a free Relationship Coaching consultation. You can get more info on Relationship Coaching by visiting my website at http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.com/ and you can always email me a SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com. Happy Holidays and may your Relationships be full of love, warmth and happiness! Until next time.............Crystal

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Assumptions and Arguments

Yesterday I did a post on YouTube about things that make my marriage a happier place (I'll post it tomorrow). One of those things is, being aware of when I am making up a story making up a story or assuming. I wanted to talk a little bit today about assumptions is arguments. When we come to an argument with assumptions it can make it really hard to listen to what our partner is saying or to hear their point of view. Just think about it, when we assume, we have already decided what we believe is true. That doesn't leave room for much else. Making assumptions isn't bad, we do it all the time, it's when we try to apply those assumptions to someone else that we run into trouble. So try to be aware of when you are assuming you know exactly what someone else means. Chances are you don't and there is probably room to learn something new about you and your partner. Where do your assumptions hurt you most in relationships?

You can visit my website a www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com or shoot me an email @ SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com. Thanks for stopping by and Blessings.............Crystal

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

What's All The Drama About?


What's your drama telling you about you? The drama in our lives can tell us a lot about ourselves if we are willing to slow down and listen. Check out the video for more :).

Also, I have a FREE tele-class coming up in the next few weeks, so I will keep you posted. For more info you can email me @ SoulMAteCoachCrystal.@gmail.com or visit my website @ www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com. Talk to you soon. Blessing............Crystal

Monday, December 6, 2010

Being Present in Our Life

Slowing down and being present in our lives can feel hard at times. It can be so tempting to ignore the icky parts ( insecurity, fear, uneasiness, etc) and busy ourselves to keep from having to be present with the fact that something is going on with us. We will use work, kids, husbands, heck just about anything to keep from looking at what is really going on.

You know that feeling that I am talking about. Sometimes it happens when all the busyness of life dies down and everything is quite and that feeling creeps up that says something is not right. Other times it happens when we look around our lives and begin to ask thing like, "Who am I and how did my life get this way?" It can also show up as a nagging uneasiness that eats away at us day and night, subtly saying that we are missing something, we just don't know what it is.

The urge to turn away from these feeling and busy ourselves with something else can feel really tempting. To clean the house, work on a project for work or perhaps to run some errands.

But I am going to suggest that you try something different. Instead of turning away, walk towards the uneasiness. Ask the hard questions. Things like: What do I really want, what am I afraid of and what is this all about? The thing is this, what we resist persists and by not being present with the uncomfortable stuff we actually keep it around. So, what have you been running from and what do you need to do to be present with it today?

For more make sure to check out my website @ www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com. Blessings........Crystal

Monday, October 4, 2010

Attract Create and Maintain A Lasting and Loving Relationship

Hi Guys! This is my new video for my website. I am so excited about it! For more information you can email me @ SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com or visit my website @ www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com. Blessings.........Crystal

Friday, September 24, 2010

Is You Mindset Standing Between You and The Relationship of YOur Dreams?




Sometimes we can unknowing stand in the way of attracting the kind of relationship that we want. We can so this with our mindset. Sometimes we are so committed to believing in our mindset that we are not in touch with what we really want. As the adage goes, what we feed grows, so if we are feeding a mindset that doesn't reflect what we what, we will get more of what we don't want showing up in our lives. Where is your mindset standing in the way of creating the life or relationship that you want?

Thanks for stopping by. For more information, visit me on my website @ www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com. You can also see more videos my visiting my You Tube channel @ www.youtube.com/SoulMateCoachCrystal. For a free coaching session email me @ SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com. Again, thanks for stopping by. Talk to you soon. Blessings......Crystal


Tuesday, August 31, 2010

What To Do When A Friend Is Being "Strung Along"

If you are watching a friend be strung along or mistreated in a relationship, this video is for you. It can be so hard to watch someone that you love go through a tough time. We often feel helpless as we watch someone that we love dearly get a "raw deal". This video will help you with ways to ease some of that pain. Take Care and Blessings.............Crystal

Monday, June 21, 2010

5 signs He's NOT Going to Marry You

Nothing is 100% but there are definite signs that he is not going to marry you, despite what he says. Take a gander at my video for more on how to tell if he is really thinking about marrying you or buying time.

I welcome all questions and comments. You can email me at SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com or visit my website at www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com. Talk to you soon. Blessings...........Crystal

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

When Good Enough Turns OutTo Be More Than Enough

Does being too picky stand in the way of you finding what you want? Sometimes we pass over something really, really good looking for perfection. If it's not what you want its not what you want, right? Not so fast! Check out my video for more on this phenomenon!

I welcome all questions and comments. You can reach me at SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com or you can visit my website @ http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.com/. Talk to you soon. Blessings.....Crystal

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Is You Man Picker Broken?

This is a juicy one, huh? Your man picker is what causes you to be attracted to a mate. It is directly connected to your selection process when it comes to choosing a mate. If your man picker is broken and you can't figure out what to do, contact me for a free sample coaching session @ SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com. You can also visit my website at www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com. Take Care. Blessings................Crystal

10 Ways to Have An Awsome and Inexpensive Date Night





I hope you guys find this post helpful. If you are looking for a way to reconnect with your partner and you keep hitting roadblocks? Contact me for a FREE sample session @ SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com. You can also visit my website @ www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com. Take care and I'll talk to you soon. Blessings.......Crystal

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Getting and Staying Connected.

Staying connected in our relationships can be a challenge to say the least. Check out my video for more on how to get and stay connected in you relationship.

I welcome all questions and comments. I can be reached at SoulMareCoachCrystal@gmail.com or you can visit my website a www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com. Also you can follow me on twitter @ www.twitter.com/SoulMateCoachC. Talk to you soon. Blessings.............Crystal

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Are You Blocking Your Own Happiness.wmv

Sometimes we are our own worst enemy when it comes to truly being happy. It's amazing how we can talk ourselves out of what we want. Is this you? When you begin to think of what you want in your life and relationship do you have a million reasons why it can't happen? Are you the one actually blocking your happiness? Check out my video for more!

I welcome all questions and comments. You can email me at SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com. You can also visit my website at www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com. If you find that you are blocking your happiness and you can't figure out how to stop, contact me for a free coaching session. It is done over the phone and all calls are confidential. You get to have the life and relationship you want and you can start today. Talk to you soon. Blessings.................Crystal

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Are You Afraid of Getting Hurt?

The idea of getting hurt in a relationship can feel almost terrifying. So much so, that sometimes it can really shut us down and take control of our lives. Learning to cope with our insecurities and fears is the first step in creating a healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Check out my video for more on facing your fears and creating the life and relationship that you want.

I welcome all questions and comments. You can reach me @ SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com. You can also visit my website @ www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com. I'll talk to you soon.

Blessings,

Crystal

Monday, April 5, 2010

Giving a Proper Apology

Learning to apologize is an important part of any relationship. Giving a sincere, heartfelt apology is not always the easiest thing. In this video I discuss tips and guidelines to giving an apology that will instantly shift almost any argument from a battle ground to a place of learning and understanding. Okay, okay maybe it won't instantly turn you into Gandhi BUT it will increase that odds that you'll find peace and resolution sooner rather than later :-)!

I welcome all questions and comments. My email address is SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com or you can visit my website at http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.com/. If you want more help with argument resolution and/or apologies, contact me via email for a free sample coaching session. Talk with you soon. Blessings.....................Crystal

Thursday, March 25, 2010

4 Signs That You Don't Fight Fair

How we argue is a huge predictor of how well fulfilling and lasting our relationships will be. Learning to fight fair can go a long way in creating and maintaining the relationship that you want. Take a gander at my video for more.

If you see yourself in the video and you can't seem to figure out how to fight fair, contact me for a free coaching session. You can email me @ SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com or you can visit my website at www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com for more information. I also welcome all questions and comments. Thanks for stopping by. Blessings...............Crystal

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Breaking Up Is Hard to Do.

Break-ups can be really tough. Weather you are ready for the relationship to end or it comes as a total surprise, breaking up is usually a heart wrenching experience. As a widow I have learned many lessons in letting go and learning to live ans love again. I have also found that most of the lessons that I have learned in letting go work pretty well in any situation where separation and pain are involved. Take a look at my video for three things that helped me survive the toughest separation of my life.

If you are going through a tough break up and you could use some additional support, send me a email at SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com, to set up a free coaching session. I welcome all questions and comments. You can also visit my website @ http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.com/. Thanks for stopping by. Blessings...............Crystal

PS. If you like my video blogs I ask that you rate them on YouTube and send anyone you think would be interested to my blog or YouTube Channel. It's www.youtube.com/SoulMateCoachCrystal. Thank you so much :-)!

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Is There Any Such Thing As a Constructive Argument?

Most of us have learned to argue in way that is hurtful and damaging to our relationship. I want you to know that you can learn to argue in a way that can be helpful to your relationship. Watch this video to learn how to make you arguments constructive, instead of destructive.

I welcome all questions and comments. Thank you for stopping by and if you would like to learn more about how to fight fair, email me at SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com. You can also visit my website at http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.vpweb.com/. Talk to you soon. Blessings.............Crystal

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

We Get What We Focus On

What we choose to focus our attention on in our relationship can often determine weather we are happy or miserable. The first step in making your relationship happier can be as simple as choosing to focus on the good instead of the bad. Notice I said simple, not easy!

I welcome all questions and comments. You email me at SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com. You can also visit me on my website @ www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.vpweb.com. Thanks for stopping by. Blessings...................Crystal

Thursday, March 11, 2010

Are You Using Manipulation to Get What You Want


Sometimes we are not direct and clear about what we want for a really good reason. We are trying to manipulate the situation to make things go one way: our way! Manipulation is not only dishonest, it kills intimacy in the relationship. See my video for more on why, despite your best intentions, manipulation can really hurt your relationship.

I welcome all questions and comments. I can be reached at www.SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com or you can visit my website at http://www.soulmatecoach.vpweb.com/. Talk to you soon. Blessings..........Crystal


Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Asking For What You Want


Asking for what we want can feel a little scary at times. It requires that we first acknowledge what we want. Then we have to be honest and vulnerable enough to ask another person for it. All while risking hearing the word "no". Check out my video for more on asking for what you want.

I welcome all questions and comments. You can email me at SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com or visit my website at http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.vpweb.com/. Talk to you soon. Blessings

Friday, February 19, 2010

Why "Clicking" With a Guy Can Actually Be A Sign That He's NOT Right For You


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Don't mind the screen. The video will play if you click the button. I don't know what is going on with uploading my videos lately. I've also changed the days that I post to Tuesdays and Thursdays. Being in school and working has proven to be more of a challenge that I thought. So, in the name of consistency, I decided to change the days :-).

Sometimes, the same thing that causes you to "click" with someone, can be the very same thing that makes the relationship unhealthy. That instant and sometimes powerful connection that we call "clicking with" some one can be very misleading. To make a long story short, the thing that attracts you to someone, may not be the same thing that make someone a good long term mate. Check out the video for more. You can also contact me at SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com or visit my website @ http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.vpweb.com/. Kisses and Hugs.................Crystal

Thursday, February 11, 2010

I'm Baaacckkk!!!

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Hi Guys! Don't worry about the black screen. Just click the play button and the video will play. Sorry for the lapse in posting. Life got a little crazy but I'm back now. I don't usually post on Thursdays but I missed you guys so much I couldn't wait until Friday.

Attraction, creation and maintenance are the three big parts of any relationship. I like to compare it to building a house. First comes the planning phase, floor plans (attraction), then the actual building of the home (creation) and then, there is the maintenance.

Whether we are aware of it or not we are doing these three things in our relationships everyday. If you are not in or have never had, the kind of relationship that you would describe as healthy, happy and fulfilling, what does this mean for you?

Well, If you are not experiencing the kind of relationships that you want, chances are that somewhere along the way, in terms of attracting , creating and maintaining the relationship you want, something has happened. Maybe you were subconsciously taught to never trust men. Perhaps, you have some unresolved pain from your past. It could be any number of underlying reasons that stand in the way. But the odd are very high that the answer lies somewhere within you.

What I know, is this simple truth. Of all the relationships I've been in, I am the common denominator. It wasn't until I stopped blaming ex boyfriends for why I didn't have the relationship that I wanted and really took a long hard look within, that I opened the door for real change. Learning to attract, create and maintain relationships that reflect my deepest desires, has changed my life. So I ask you, how could it change your life? What is your part in making this change a reality?

Check out the video for more of attracting, creating and maintaining the relationship you truly want.

You can email me @ SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com or visit my website @ http://www.soulmatecoach.vpweb.com/. Talk with you soon. Much Love...................Crystal

Saturday, January 30, 2010

I am so sorry for the lapse in posts. I will be taking a break until Friday, February 6. I just started certification and it is kickin' my butt! LOL! So, I am taking a moment to re-group and I will rejoin you guys on Friday. Until then..............Crystal

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Top 5 Dating Red Flags

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This is a list of my five top dating red flags. These are things that tend to show up early in the dating relationship and let you know that the could be trouble ahead. Catching a red flag early can be the difference between one bad date turning into a bad relationship. Remember, people show and tell us who they are all the time, it's our job to pick up on the clues. We ultimately, have to learn to tell the difference between a "prince" and a ""toad! And, even though the toad might not come out and tell you he's a toad his words and actions sure will!

As I mentioned in the video, I am currently offering free sample coaching sessions. Sample sessions are a wonderful opportunity to see what Life/Relationship Coaching is all about. I also welcome all comments and questions. Coaching is done over the phone, so distance is not an issue. My website is www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.vpweb.com and my email is SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com. Blessings and I'll talk to you soon

Warmly,

Crystal

Monday, January 18, 2010

An Attitude of Gratitude

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Do you have an attitude of gratitude when it comes to your relationships? Can you honestly say that you focus more on the good, than the bad things in your relationship? If your answer is no, don't worry, you're not alone. It takes a lot of conscious effort, at least for most of us, to remind ourselves of what we love about our mates on a daily bases. Fear not! Because not only can it be done, with a little practice and some planning, you can be singing the praises of the same man that can sometimes, irritate your socks off! Trust me on this one ladies!

I am currently offering FREE sample coaching sessions. It is a wonderful way to see what coaching is all about. I welcome all questions and comments. You can visit my website @ www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.vpweb.com or email me @ SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com. Blessings..........Crystal

Friday, January 15, 2010

Relationship Goals For 2010


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What are your relationship goals for 2010. Whether you are married or single, setting goals are a necessary part of of building the relationship we want. There is nothing that is successfully built, with out planning. From building a home to paving a road, planning is the most important part to making it happen. So it is with your relationship. If you're married, settings goals ans charting a course goes along way in creating the marriage/relationship you want. If you are single, your goals can be based on what kind of relationship you want in the future and what you need to do to now to prepare for it. We like to think that great relationships just happen naturally, BOLOGNA! Check out the video for more details!

I am currently offer FREE sample coaching sessions. Sample sessions are done over the phone, so distance is not an issue. This is a wonderful way to learn more about coaching and see if coaching is for you. I also welcome all questions and comments. Visit my website, www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.vpweb.com or you can email me at SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com. Blessings. Talk to you soon.......Crystal

Monday, January 11, 2010

What Are You Committed To?

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Often times we don't realize how deeply committed we are to an idea or notion. The truth is, often times, we are more committed to the life we have and doing things the way we have done in the past, than the life we say we want. The end result is that we wake up one day wondering, "How did I end up here? This isn't the life I wanted!" If this is you, this post may be helpful.



I welcome relationship questions and all comments. As I mentioned in the video post, I am offering FREE sample coaching sessions. You can visit my website @ http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.vpweb.com/ or email me @ SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com . Blessings. Talk to you soon.........Crystal

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Hey Guys

I am sorry that there is no video for today. I've had a problem uploading my video all day. Hopefully, it will work this time. If not I'll see you guys tomorrow.........Crystal

Where Ever I Go, There I am



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I know this title sounds crazy but it is sooooo true! It can be really tough to believe, when I don't agree with or like something that The Hubby has done or said. I am so temped to point the finger and say, "See, it's all his fault!" But you know what they say, when you point one at finger at someone else, three more are pointing back at you. And what do those three finger say? I give you a clue: It has alot to do with me! Check out this video more.


Are you ready to attract and create the relationship of your dreams? Do you want to re-ignite the fire and passion in your current relationship? Have you recently come out of a relationship and your ready to start again, but you don't know where or how? Let's get started today! I Offer free sample coaching sessions. I coach over the phone so distance is not an issue. For more information go to my website @ http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.vpweb.com/. Or email me @ SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com

Sorry for the late post, Blogger was slow uploading my video yestersay.

Monday, January 4, 2010

What is He NOT Saying?

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This is an important question in getting to know someone. What someone is "not" saying can shed a lot of light on who that person is and how they think. It can give you insight on what they value and what they see as insignificant. Learning to decipher what he is not saying can go along way in determining if some one has long term mate potential. What important information could he be hiding, in what he's not saying?

Are you ready to attract and create the relationship of your dreams? Do you want to put re-ignite the fire and passion in your marriage or current relationship? Have you recently come out of a relationship and you're ready to start over, but you just don't know where or how? Let's get started today! I offer FREE sample coaching sessions. Sessions are done over the phone, so distance is not an issue. For more information you can visit my website at http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.vpweb.com. You can also email me at SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com.

Warmly,

Crystal

Friday, January 1, 2010

We Have The Lives We Choose


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Happy New Year!!! What better topic to start 2010 off with than our choices? We actually do have the lives we choose. I know, I know, sometimes it can feel like life just happens to us, but I want to challenge that idea. Take a quick look back over your life and look at a particular choice you made. How did it effect your life? Maybe you feel you made the best decision, maybe it wasn't the best choice. The point is you got to choose. Realizing that we have the power of choice gives us freedom to, thoughtfully and pro-actively create the lives and relationships that we want.

I offer FREE sample coaching sessions. Sessions are done over the phone, so distance is not an issue. If you are interested you can go to my website www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.vpweb.com or you can email me at SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com.

Warmly,

Crystal