This week the SoulMate Coach Crystal Show is all about beauty and putting your ‘best’ face forward. Needless to say, I have been thinking about beauty, a lot! Most of this has to do with my hair and going natural. If you read my post last week I really loved my hair BUT what I am learning that natural hair, much like life, cannot be completely controlled! There are always variables. You can work with it, befriend it and try to coerce it into acting 'right' but for the most part it is going to do what it wants to do. And you either find your peace with it or you don't! It has opened my eyes to a whole new world when it comes to appreciating my own beauty.
I am living in a world, a kind of Twilight Zone existence, where I am having to define and re-define my own sense of beauty almost daily. A place where what worked yesterday might not work tomorrow and there is not much I can do about it. A world where sometimes I feel like a Nubian queen other days I feel unsure and awkward. A little voice can creep up and ask, ‘Do I look crazy? Am I still pretty? What the HECK made me think I could do this?’
This doesn't only affect me, it has touched my husband too! Oh, my poor, poor husband! The first week or two, after I took my weave out was probably pure hell for him. He tries to act like me asking him 100 times a day ( okay, it was probably less but you get the picture), ‘ How does my hair look’, was no problem. BUT I know it was hard for him, and I am sure he is glad that I have come through that phase.
Then there are the pep talks I have started giving myself. They usually go something like this, ‘Crystal you are beautiful no matter how you wear your hair. Your hair does NOT define you! Now shine on child! Shine on!” Now even though I know these words are true, sometimes this works and sometimes it doesn't! Seeing our beauty should be easy right? Then why the heck is it so hard sometimes?
I guess that’s because connecting with our sense of beauty is not always as easy as we would like it to be. I am not talking about superficial beauty, I’m talking about really feeling good in our own skin. Appreciating ourselves when we don't look our best or learning to love and appreciate who we are, warts and all, really takes work. It is the kind of work that can be gritty and hard BUT it also necessary when it comes building up our sense of self. I've GOT to be grounded in loving me before I can love another or even allow someone else to truly love me.
I guess that’s because connecting with our sense of beauty is not always as easy as we would like it to be. I am not talking about superficial beauty, I’m talking about really feeling good in our own skin. Appreciating ourselves when we don't look our best or learning to love and appreciate who we are, warts and all, really takes work. It is the kind of work that can be gritty and hard BUT it also necessary when it comes building up our sense of self. I've GOT to be grounded in loving me before I can love another or even allow someone else to truly love me.
What I know is this; every relationship that we have with another is a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves. It is impossible to have a relationship full of love and acceptance, if we can’t love and accept ourselves and I am finding that this love and acceptance can start with something as simple as learning to see my beauty as I adjust to wearing my hair natural! Who knew? I guess that’s the beauty of living, you learn something new every day! Where do you need to learn to love and accept your own beauty? What are you willing to commit to doing today, to show yourself more love and acceptance in this area?
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