What if The Wall That Protects Your Heart Also Blocks Love?

Have you been hurt and disappointed in the past? Have you put a wall around your heart? Are you waiting for a man to PROVE that you can trust him? Well, you could be blocking your chances at love AND setting yourself up for heart break. Take a look at the video to see how the same wall that protects your heart is the same wall that is keeping love out.

For more information visit me @ http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.com/.  Also, join me starting Monday April 4th and every Monday after from that from 6:30-7:30 PM for The SoulMate Coach Crystal Show @ www.blogtalkradio.com/SoulMate-Coach-Crystal.  The topic for Monday April 4th will be "Why Are So Many Savvy, Sexy and Successful Sisters Still Single?" This is sure to be a lively and informative conversation.  So make sure to tune in and join in the conversation! Thanks for stopping by and I'll see you next week. Blessings...........Crystal

Do You Need To Lower Your Standards to Find Love?

Are your standards too high? Are your standards blocking you when it comes to love? Do you need to lower your standards to find love? This video addresses these questions. 

Thanks for stopping by today.  For more info you can visit me at http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.com/.  See more awesome relationship videos by visiting www.youtube.com/SoulMateCoachCrystal.  Take care and I'll talk to you soon!  Blessings.........Crystal

Whose Stuff Is This?

Today, I am participating in a blog tour for a terrific new book titled Whose Stuff Is This? Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You. The book, written by Yvonne Perry, has more than two dozen proven and effective ways to clear your energy field, and offers empowering, proactive techniques to manage your own energy. See http://whosestuffisthis.com/ for details.
Yesterday, Yvonne visited the Spiritus blog. Yvonne is my guest blogger today, contributing an article she wrote about how to detach from an over-stimulating social setting.

Detaching Politely Before You Reach Your Limit
By Yvonne Perry
An empath's best coping method is the ability to detach from others or a situation. An empath is a feeler, and we usually know when we’ve reached our limit. If the emotional burden of another person or situation becomes too great, we can pull away without being hateful, angry, or upset. It is an essential act of self preservation that must be utilized.
From time to time, I still find that being in a crowd for a long period of time is overwhelming for me, even though I have done everything I recommend in my book, Whose Stuff Is This? Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You. Advanced preparation and being proactive is the key to avoiding overstimulation. When planning meetings and public engagements, seek venues that are quiet and peaceful. It doesn’t have to be the library or a morgue, but those are options!
Recently, I found a great coffee shop on the east side of Nashville. They serve the best coffee in town, or at least that’s my opinion. So, I thought it was a good idea to meet a colleague there and pick up another bag of the delicious brew for home use. Things started out great about 10:30 a.m., but after about an hour, the room was filling with lunch customers and the conversation volume and emotional energy level was increasing. Within thirty minutes, I had grounded and centered several times, but I had gone past my personal limit. I could hardly hear myself think, much less carry on a conversation with my friend. I wanted to run out the door and get away, but that didn’t seem the professional thing to do. I needed to politely detach.
I said, “Bob, this place has gotten so loud, I can hardly hear what you are saying.” I had to practically scream to be heard. “Can we move to that table in the back of the room?”
He was all too glad to, but moving didn’t help me very much. By then, I was in overload and for the next fifteen minutes, my attention was not on my conversation with my friend. I was trying to tune out the psychic “tips and quips” I was getting about the people at the table next to us. It was past time for me to leave.
“Bob, I am very interested in what you have to say, but if you don’t mind, I’d like to continue our conversation at another time and a different location. I am over stimulated by the energy in this room.” I picked up my purse and stood. “I will email you when I get home and check my calendar. We can set something up for next week.”
He was very understanding.


The next time I met a colleague, I asked him to meet me at a bookstore where there is a coffee shop. This was a much better setting and I was able to work with that colleague for three hours before my hungry stomach started growling for dinner. I wasn’t even over stimulated when I got home.
Empaths need to have the foresight to plan ahead, and most of the time that is doable if you are the one planning the meeting. But, what if you are not the planner, but rather the guest? For social gatherings, such as a party, where there will be a lot of unfamiliar energy, I either stay near someone I know or engage in conversation with someone whose energy feels good—I generally gravitate toward children! If I start to feel overwhelmed, I’ll find a corner where I can observe the action without being antisocial or placing myself right in the middle of things. That position allows me to take breaks without being missed while I go outside or to a quiet room to get away from the cacophony of energy. If my husband goes with me to a social event and I start feeling over stimulated, I can stand near him or hold his hand for a moment to help ground myself with his energy. If I do this several times, he knows I am ready to leave and will look for a way to politely say our goodbyes. If I am going to a function without my husband, I may drive my own car so I’m not stranded if I need to leave.
For more help dealing with energy overload and setting boundaries, see Chapter 10 of my book. http://WhoseStuffIsThis.com
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Come along on the tour with us. Tomorrow’s blog stop will be at Lisa Haselton’s Reviews and Interviews.
See the tour schedule at http://tinyurl.com/EmpathTour.

Are You The One Blocking Love In Your Life?

If you can't see yourself as blissfully happy, you might actually be blocking love. Check out my video to see how not being a visionary when it comes to love can cost you in the long run.

You can visit me at www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com for more info on how you can get on the path to meeting your soul mate today. Or visit me on www.youtube.com/SoulMateCoachCrystal for more relationship advice and insight. Also on April 6th, 2011 I will be launching my new show, The SoulMate Coach Crystal Show on Blog Talk Radio! Stay tuned and I'll keep you posted! And remember, if you don't have the love you want, despite you best efforts, something probably needs to change. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing expecting different results. Make a change today and take a step towards having the relationship of your dreams. Talk to you soon........Blessings

Do You Assign Waaayyyy To Much Meaning To What A Man Does?

Do you read way too much into what a man does or says? Are you constantly trying to decipher what a man's actions really mean? Then this video is for you. Learning to be really clear on what is actually going on requires that we don't read too much into what a man does. Check out this video to learn more!

Thanks for stopping by. If you are struggling in the love department, despite your best efforts and plans, contact me for a free consultation. Visit my website at http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.com/ or visit my You Tube channel at www.youtube.com/SoulMateCoachCrystal. Remember, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. Here's to finding your soul mate! Take care and talk to you soon. Blessings................Crystal

How Giving Gratitude Can Create The Relationship You Want

How much gratitude do you show in your relationship? As many of you know, I am a huge believer in the power of gratitude. I have experienced the change that living from a perspective of gratitude can have. Gratitude not only affects my life but in every relationship that I have, especially my marriage. When we show gratitude, it's like we create a magic looking glass. Gratitude works a kind of magic that allows us to somehow find good in a bad situation. It allows us to see hope when a situation looks hopeless. It can soften our sometimes critical eye.

It also works a certain kind of magic in our relationships. As the saying goes, what we feed grows. So not only does gratitude create a space of contentment within us, it also increases the likelihood that our husband/partner will continue doing the things we show gratitude for. So, when all else fails, try a little gratitude. What is it costing you not to?

Thanks for stopping by today. As always, if you find showing gratitude in your marriage/relationship to be a challenge, feel free to contact me at http://www.soulmatecoachcrystal.com/. Or you can also shoot me an e-mail at SoulMateCoachCrystal@gmail.com. I offer a free 30 min. consultation for all new clients. If this sounds interesting to you, contact me so we can set up your free session today! Blessings and take care. Talk to you soon..................... Crystal

4 Ways To Have The Relationship You Want In 2011

Contrary to every romance novel and romantic comedy we've ever seen, great relationships don't just happen. They take work, planning and time. It can be a wonderful romantic notion that we will meet the guy, fall in love and live happily ever after, without a bit of conscious work on our part. I admit, it is a lovey thought BUT sooooo not realistic. Check out the video and learn ways to plan for and Have The Relationship You Want in 2011.

Thanks for stopping by. For more information or to set up your free relationship coaching session you can visit my website at www.SoulMateCoachCrystal.com. Until next week, take care and blessings..........Crystal