Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Things Than Make My Marriage a Happier Place Pt1

These are a few things that I have found make my marriage a happier place. Now, this is a combination of what I've learned from my marriage to my late husband(16 years together), my current husband, books workshops, seminars, counseling and coaching. So all in all, I've been plugging away at this "happy relationship" thing for over 20 years of my life. This is an overview of some of the main things that make my marriage a happy place to be. I hope you enjoy and find it helpful. BTW there is a Part 2 posted on my YouTube channel. I will be posting it here next week but if you want a sneak peak go over and check it out

Thanks for stopping by. If your marriage is not such a "happy place" these days feel free to contact me for a free Relationship Coaching consultation. You can get more info on Relationship Coaching by visiting my website at and you can always email me a Happy Holidays and may your Relationships be full of love, warmth and happiness! Until next time.............Crystal

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Assumptions and Arguments

Yesterday I did a post on YouTube about things that make my marriage a happier place (I'll post it tomorrow). One of those things is, being aware of when I am making up a story making up a story or assuming. I wanted to talk a little bit today about assumptions is arguments. When we come to an argument with assumptions it can make it really hard to listen to what our partner is saying or to hear their point of view. Just think about it, when we assume, we have already decided what we believe is true. That doesn't leave room for much else. Making assumptions isn't bad, we do it all the time, it's when we try to apply those assumptions to someone else that we run into trouble. So try to be aware of when you are assuming you know exactly what someone else means. Chances are you don't and there is probably room to learn something new about you and your partner. Where do your assumptions hurt you most in relationships?

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Wednesday, December 8, 2010

What's All The Drama About?

What's your drama telling you about you? The drama in our lives can tell us a lot about ourselves if we are willing to slow down and listen. Check out the video for more :).

Also, I have a FREE tele-class coming up in the next few weeks, so I will keep you posted. For more info you can email me @ or visit my website @ Talk to you soon. Blessing............Crystal

Monday, December 6, 2010

Being Present in Our Life

Slowing down and being present in our lives can feel hard at times. It can be so tempting to ignore the icky parts ( insecurity, fear, uneasiness, etc) and busy ourselves to keep from having to be present with the fact that something is going on with us. We will use work, kids, husbands, heck just about anything to keep from looking at what is really going on.

You know that feeling that I am talking about. Sometimes it happens when all the busyness of life dies down and everything is quite and that feeling creeps up that says something is not right. Other times it happens when we look around our lives and begin to ask thing like, "Who am I and how did my life get this way?" It can also show up as a nagging uneasiness that eats away at us day and night, subtly saying that we are missing something, we just don't know what it is.

The urge to turn away from these feeling and busy ourselves with something else can feel really tempting. To clean the house, work on a project for work or perhaps to run some errands.

But I am going to suggest that you try something different. Instead of turning away, walk towards the uneasiness. Ask the hard questions. Things like: What do I really want, what am I afraid of and what is this all about? The thing is this, what we resist persists and by not being present with the uncomfortable stuff we actually keep it around. So, what have you been running from and what do you need to do to be present with it today?

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