Are You Attracted to Men That Are Fixer-Uppers?

Are you attracted always to that guy that needs JUST needs a little (which always turns out to be a lot of) love, support and WORK to reach his full potential? You know, the guy who almost has it together but can never quite get it together? That one with sooo much potential that he never seems to live up to.

Or perhaps, he’s the one that you’ve supported through thick and thin only to have him disappear after he reaches his goal? If you’ve  ever co-signed for a car, pulled all nighters, supported him in his business start up or through school only to have him never reach his potential or walk away once he does, this episode is for you!

I will share with you how and why this happens and how to keep it from happening to you again! This is going to be powerful stuff! You don't want to miss this life and relationship changing episode!

When: Monday, September 19, 2011

Time: 7:00-7:30PM EST

Where: www.blogtalkradio.com/SoulMate-Coach-Crystal or call in to listen live or comment by dialing 760-512-7255.

This show is quickly becoming the go-to show for real relationship advice and insight! I cram more info into 30 minutes than the law should allow!! So, come on out and get you relationship "Aha" moment!

Some of you are happily single or married and this is NOT for you and I am happy for you, that is a beautiful thing. However, there are people that you probably know WHO are hurting and want to experience the same happiness and peace that you have found. So pay it forward and PLEASE PASS THIS INFORMATION ALONG TO THEM. Together we can break the cycle of painful relationships and unlock the door to the relationship of your dreams. See you on the radio!

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: On Monday, September, 26th, there will be no live broadcast of the SoulMate Crystal Show. The regular show will resume on Monday, October, 3rd.

Blessings,

Crystal

And When I Wake Up, Everything I Went Through Will Be Beautiful.....

As you guys know I am a huge music fan.  Last week I bought Jill Scott’s new CD, In Light of The Sun, and all I can say is that I am in LOVE!!!  Now, I am a huge Jill Scott fan anyway, so this is not totally shocking but one of her songs REALLY struck a nerve with me this past week.  

The song, When I Wake Up, is absolutely gorgeous.  It talks about love, loss and recovery.  She talks about living in that place where you know you need to move on and that something better is coming but you just can’t let go.  She sings, beautifully I might add,  “When I wake up, everything I went through will be beautiful. And when I wake up, and I will wake up, it will be beautiful.”  

I guess these words are so profound because I know them to be true.  Having experienced my own personal tragedy (my first husband passing) and with the 10th anniversary of 9/11, this past Sunday, this song seemed to reach out and grab me.  The enormity of loss, remembering those who were lost and moving forward seemed to be the theme of the weekend.  

Loss can be a gut wrenching part of life and moving forward after loss can feel impossible.  However, loss is something that I found, I had to walk through to find healing.  There was no way around it (no matter how much I wished there was).  And anyone who has ever suffered a tremendous loss knows that loss doesn't process it’s self, nor will the pain go away on it’s own, it’s something we have to learn to move through.  But take heart because there is a gift......

That gift is that, as Jill sang, when we wake up, everything we went through will be beautiful.  And 5 years out from my own tragedy, I know these words to be true.  Because I feel like I am waking up and when I look around my life, everything is beautiful.  Now, don’t get me wrong, these past 5 years were filled with a whole lot of tears, struggles, some laughter and some even some joy.  I had to rebuild much of my life and in some ways totally redefine myself.  

I learned that I was stronger that I could have ever imagined.  I have discovered parts of me that I would have never found otherwise.  I have found that I love yoga and have started running, who knew? And to my surprise, I have found a deep and fulfilling love.  The kind of love I believed you only get once in your life, I have found again. 

 Of course its different but just as deep and satisfying. In some ways it’s actually deeper, because I am deeper. Working through loss has a way of adding depth to your life that you couldn't otherwise imagine. I can still hear my coach saying to me, in one of my darkest hours, “Crystal, the degree to which you are willing to grieve, will be the degree to which you will be able to love, once the pain goes away”.  And boy, was she right.

I discovered that moving forward and having a wonderful life has nothing to do with how much I loved my late husband or my life before his passing.  It has everything to do with being grateful for the life I had and then letting go of that life, because that life ended.  Learning to love my life, as it is, is how I honor my past and my present. There are rough patches here and there and I still have a good ‘cry session’ when I need to but I can honestly say humbly and with gratitude: “Everything I went through is BEAUTIFUL”.

ERYKAH BADU LIVE - BAG LADY

In honor of today's show! Listen to these lyrics. So profound and TRUE!!! Blessings......Crystal

Are You An Emotional Bag Lady?

 ARE YOU AN EMOTIONAL BAG LADY?

Bag lady you gone hurt your back
Dragging all them bags like that
I guess nobody ever told you
All you must hold on to
Is you, is you, is you ~Bag Lady By Erykah Badu

Remember this song? Carrying around emotional bagging is both draining frustrating.  It sucks all of the jou and happiness out of you life and relationships.  And as Eryhah say's in the afore mentioned song, its time to: let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go!  

Are you tired of dragging around emotional baggage?  Do you find yourself feeling stuck in a cycle of painful and dead end relationships? Do you know 'what' you need to change but you don't know 'how' or where to start? Then take heart, this show is for you. 

Past hurts, disappointments and painful relationships don't have to plague you forever. You can put down your emotional baggage for once and for all and I want to show you how. So make sure to join me this Monday on the SoulMate Coach Crystal show! Its time to FREE yourself of your emotional baggage and have the life and relationship that you truly desire.   So join me for this lively and interesting conversation!

               

When: Monday, September 5, 2011

Time: 7:00-7:30PM EST

Where: The SoulMate Coach Crystal Show or call in to listen live or comment by dialing 760-512-7255

This show is quickly becoming the go-to show for real relationship advice and insight! Come on out and get you relationship "Aha" moment!

Some of you are happily single or married and this is NOT for you and I am happy for you, that is a beautiful thing. However, there are people that you probably know WHO are hurting and want to experience the same happiness and peace that you have found. So pay it forward and PLEASE PASS THIS INFORMATION ALONG TO THEM. Together we can break the cycle of painful relationships and unlock the door to the relationship of your dreams. See you on the radio!

Blessings,

Crystal 

Do You Need To Lower Your Standards to Find Love?

Are your standards too high? Are your standards blocking you when it comes to love? Do you need to lower your standards to find love? This video addresses these questions.

Are You Suffering From The Ms.Boss Syndrome?

Its that time again!!!!  Time for the SoulMate Coach Crystal Show!!!  And this week we will be taking a look at the Ms. Boss Syndrome.  How can you tell if you have the syndrome? Well. here are a few questions to help you clarify:  Are you constantly accused of being bossy and/or controlling? Do you ALWAYS have to have the last word? Do you tend to believe that YOUR way is ALWAYS the best way? Is it hard for you to hear and respect a different opinion? Well, guess what? If you answered yes to most of the questions you most likely suffer from the MS. Boss Syndrome! 

And if you answered mostly no's, don't get too excited! Because there is still a good chance that you suffer from the syndrome and you are just are in denial. One of the main symptoms of the syndrome is an inability to see a problem with our bossy behavior (the Ms. Boss Syndrome is veeerryyyy tricky). It's not that you are bossy, it's just that you ideas ARE always better LOL! 



But seriously, as successful sista's we have to handle a lot and in order to experience the kind of success we have it is important to be able to take control at times. There are times when it is absolutely necessary to be the boss! But what happens when we can't turn Ms. Boss off? How does being Ms. Boss 24-7 affect your dating life, relationship or marriage? What are the signs that you are too bossy? Join me this Monday on the SoulMate Coach Crystal Show, where we pack more info into 30 minutes than the law should allow, to get the answers to these questions and more!!! 

When: Monday, August 29, 2011
Time: 7:00-7:30PM EST

Where: www.blogtalkradio.com/SoulMate-Coach-Crystal or call in to listen live or comment by dialing 760-512-7255 

This show is quickly becoming the go-to show for real relationship advice and insight! Come on out and get you relationship "Aha" moment!  Also, ALL previous episodes are available on-demand and iTunes-FREE!!!  

Some of you are happily single or married and this is NOT for you and I am happy for you, love is a beautiful thing. However, there are people that you probably know WHO are hurting and want to experience the same happiness and peace that you have found. So pay it forward and PLEASE PASS THIS INFORMATION ALONG TO THEM. Together we can break the cycle of painful relationships and unlock the door to the relationship of your dreams. See you on the radio!

Blessings,

Crystal

What An Earthquake and Hurricane Ireane Taught Me.....

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.

Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

As an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they're a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of its furniture,

still treat each guest honorably.

He may be clearing you out

for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,

meet them at the door laughing,

and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,

because each has been sent

as a guide from beyond. ~Rumi~

Now, I am one of those people that believes that everything that happens can teach me something.  I don’t believe in coincidence or luck.  Call me crazy but I believe that there is a lesson to be learned, even though I may not like it (and trust me I don’t always like it), for whatever is happening.  So am always looking for the connection between what is happening in the world around me and what I can learn from it.  And last week was no different.  Except for one big difference, at first I could see no real lesson!

I mean, c’mon man!  We had an earthquake on Tuesday and a hurricane on Saturday in case you missed it, and I could find no real lesson?!?!   This has got to be some kind of cosmic joke, right?  

Then I came across this poem this morning and one huge lesson hit me like a ton of bricks!  The reality that life happens and there are times when there is not a whole lot we can do about it. Life can be stormy, windy and scary one day and clear blue skies the next. Or  it can be a beautiful sunny day and the earth moves under your feet shaking the very foundation you though was so solid.....

The hurricane and earthquake are such a reflection of life in so many ways.  The earthquake was one of those unexpected things.  No one knew or expected it. We are, after all on the East Coast! Earthquakes don’t happen here, right? The nervousness and uneasiness.  What if it happens again? How do you really expect the unexpected?

And then there was Hurricane Irene, well we all knew she was coming.  So, we nervously awaited her arrival.  We watch, we waited, we hoped and we prayed.  We prepared (and some of us bought wayyyyy to much food) for the worse and hoped for the best. Then we finally entered the storm half scared to death on one day(and if you weren’t scared to death, it certainly wasn't because the news didn’t try !) only to awaken to a sunny day.  

It’s almost like the universe was reminding us that there are times when that all we can do is learn to find peace with whatever shows up at our door.  That this human body is indeed our ‘Guest House’.  Be it external, like an earthquake under our feet or hurricane of anger, resentment or pain from within.  

There is something to be learned, the possibility of seeing our ‘bad’ experience as something that we can learn from, instead of something to run away from or try to forget.  Who knows, maybe this experience could actually be preparing us for something wonderful if we learn what ‘it’ came to teach us.  Not that it will always be easy to do or that we should pretend that things are okay when they are not.  But there is definitely a gift in learning to accept and find peace with the seemingly ‘bad’ parts of ourselves and the world around us.  Where are you holding on to anxiety, anger or hurt?  What lessons could they be trying to teach you?